For the receiver, it’s like a paid vacation, but for the giver it’s equivalent to working overtime. Now it’s cliché but true that they don’t call it a job for nothing. No man has ever complained about having someone go to work on him while he lies back floating in a cloud of warm pleasure. In these instances, the blowjob can be a stand-in for full-on penetration. Sometimes you just don’t want to get pounded but your man is next to you, and he’s hard, so what are you going to do? You could give him a desultory handjob, but that’s the sexual equivalent of going to In-N-Out and only getting a bag of fries: nice as a side, but hardly a full meal. The blowjob is a handy tool in any sexual enthusiast’s arsenal. In fact, that’s precisely how you should think about giving a blowjob – it’s not a sprint to the end, it’s more of a slow, steady pace to climax. The first time a guy came in my mouth, I felt a surge of pride, as if I had just completed a marathon and that was the prize waiting for me at the finish line. As both givers and receivers of head, we are intimately aware of the mechanics involved. They figure, rightly so, that there’s no better resource than a gay man to dispense advise on how to orally please another man. Straight girlfriends often ask me with the same wide-eyed mystification about tips for giving head.
